Monday, July 16, 2012

Monday Motivation: On Perfection

Monday Motivation 2

Happy Monday, everyone!  Let me be perfectly honest with you: I did NOT want to get out of bed this morning.  Unfortunately, with a three-and-a-half year old, laying in bed all day simply isn't an option.  This is why I chose a beach for the background above.  Man, I wish I could be there... an ice cold soda in one hand and a new glossy magazine in the other... Yeah, that's the life...

Oh, yeah.  Back to reality.  What is my reality?  I am sitting here at my computer {still in my pajamas}, trying to crank out a post.  If you're wondering about that three-and-a-half year old I spoke of just a minute ago, he's happily watching Little Einsteins.  {He takes after his mother and needs time to "wake up" in the morning.}  Now, please don't get me wrong.  I am so thankful for this reality.  I would just prefer blogging next to my kiddo while we both stick our toes in the sand and bask in the breeze of the ocean.  Just sayin...

Okay, now that I've frustrated all of you who are not at the beach right now, let's jump into this week's Monday Motivation post.  This week we're discussing perfection...

Perfect Conditions

A spotless home.  Flawless outfits worn every day.  Gourmet meals cooked every night.  These are some example of what some would consider to be perfection.  Those who struggle with trying to attain these {or similar} goals are called: perfectionists.  Of course, some perfectionists are better at grasping these goals than others.

Take me for example: I am a perfectionist.  Those who know me personally would have a hard time believing that statement.  But, it's true.  Do I have a spotless house?  No.  Do I always wear stylish outfits? Nope.  Do I cook gourmet meals every single night?  Okay, now that one makes me laugh.

So, how am I a perfectionist?  Well, I don't have a spotless home because I stay frustrated with my house.  It's too small.  It's not decorated at all like I want it to be.  So, if my home can't live up to my expectations {my idea of perfection}, then it's a complete waste of time to put any effort into keeping it clean.

"Oh, well, that's most people...", you may say.  How about this one: wearing flawlessly styled outfits every day.  Most days I stay in jeans {and, no, not the cute skinny ones} and an ill-fitting t-shirt all the time {as well as always keep my hair pulled back into a bun}, because {1} it's very likely that no one is going to see me and {2} I'm not exactly a size two anymore, so I figure it's pointless to try and look cute when I don't feel cute in anything I wear.

"Well, most women feel that way...", you might respond.  {And I do appreciate you trying to sympathize with me...}  Let's look at the whole gourmet meal thing: I don't put a whole lot of effort into meals because, quite frankly, I'm not the best cook.  Not to mention the fact that meal planning can be downright frustrating sometimes.  I mean, I want to provide my family with nothing but healthy and nutritious meals, but have you SEEN the cost of food lately?  So, because I can't serve food the way I'd like to, I just resort to junk like frozen pizzas and spaghetti.

Do you see the problem?  I don't keep a spotless home because I'm frustrated with my house.  I don't try to put more effort into getting dressed because I'm frustrated with my body.  And I don't try harder in the kitchen because I'm frustrated with my {lack of} cooking abilities and the budget.  In other words, if the "conditions" are not ideal, I don't even bother.  Thing is, my house will never look exactly like I want it to and my body will never be a size two again {I'm sure...}.  My cooking skills may improve, but balancing budget and nutrition will always be a battle I must fight.  

So, what's a perfectionist to do?  First of all, if you're also a perfectionist, let's start by ditching the "perfect". All of my expectations are unrealistic and chances are, many of the ones you place on yourself are, too.  Secondly, take note of your talents and skills.  If you're good at {or enjoy} cleaning or cooking, then capitalize on that.  Do that thing well.  As for the rest, that's step #3: fill in the blanks by learning.  You all know by now that I could greatly benefit from some cooking lessons.  But, I could also lessen my frustration with the budget/nutrition issue by researching healthy, inexpensive meals.  What about you?  What skill/knowledge would you like to learn?

If you get nothing else out of this post, I hope you understand that those perfect conditions you are waiting for will never arrive.  The house will never be perfect.  Your body will never be perfect.  Your skills will never be perfect.  After all, NOBODY'S PERFECT!  And, that's okay.  It's not up to us to be perfect.  We're just responsible for doing the best we can with what we have.  Nothing more, nothing less.

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Now, it's time for the weekly to-do's.  Here was last weeks:

To-Do List 2

As you can see, last week was mostly starting things but not finishing them.  I've got to do better about that.  But, at least, starting is progress.

Here's what I'm working on this week {some carried over}...

NeedTo/WantTo

As you can see, it looks pretty much identical to last week {except I eliminated the laundry task - it stills needs to be done, mind you, but I am caught up.}  Also, I made it a goal to read just one chapter of "The Meghan Method" because, surely, I can squeeze in one chapter in seven days.  You'd think, right?

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Well, friends, another Monday Motivation post has come and gone.  Tell me, are you liking these posts?  Should it stay at once a week or do I need to change it to a once-a-month post {obviously the name would change}?  I appreciate your feedback...

I hope you have a wonderful Monday!  See you tomorrow!!

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