Thursday, December 12, 2013

an advent-less christmas.

Last December I wanted to do some kind of Advent activity with my son leading up to Christmas day and just never did. So, I promised myself that this would be the year that I finally got around to doing something. And then the morning sickness hit and now I've got whatever cold has been passed around from family member to family member these last few weeks. Needless to say, a well-organized and executed Advent project hasn't happened yet. And honestly? It probably won't happen and, after much self-loathing, I've finally become okay with that.

Sure, we'll talk about Jesus regularly and I'll remind my Little Man that it isn't about the gifts under the tree, but the Gift that came all those years ago in the form of a tiny baby. I'll tell him why it's important to us and try to explain what Emmanuel, God with us, truly means. I'll read the Christmas story from the Jesus Storybook Bible and hopefully we'll even squeeze in some just-for-fun things, like making snowflakes, drinking hot chocolate, and watching silly movies like Elf and How the Grinch Stole Christmas {two of our favorites}. But a formally laid out Advent plan, we will not have.

Instead, I'll let go of perfection {even though my grasp was pretty tight} and choose grace, which is really the whole reason God became a man in the first place: Jesus was grace in the flesh. I'll hold my boys {both the grown one and the still-growing one} and thank God for them and for the little life inside of me. I'll enjoy the talks and the hot chocolate and the movies, all the while remembering why we celebrate.

Are you doing some sort of Advent plan this year?

Regardless of whether you celebrate Advent or not, what are some ways you can let go of perfection this holiday season?

God Bless,


  1. Thank you for this post! For the past 3 years, I've been trying to do Advent activities with my boys but for some reason or another it never really worked out. This year I have finally come to terms with that. I am not that structured the rest of the year, so I don't know how I thought I could do that during this season. This year, I am doing some things with them, like reading about Christmas, and learning Christmas carols and playing with nativity sets. Maybe we'll bake cookies and maybe we won't. If we do, it will be fun, if we don't there is no pressure.

    1. Sounds like you've got a great, simple, and stress-free plan for celebrating the season. Our kids appreciate the small things more than we know and they take in more than we give them credit for. Hope you have a Merry Christmas with your boys!

  2. We have the world's simplest advent calendar (just super easy activities like "have a Christmas music dance party") AND I still didn't bother starting it until just the other day. (25 days is too many!) :) And last year, when I was pregnant, I too nixed it altogether!

    It's those little tender moments (especially the teaching moments) that you slip in here and there that matter.

    1. Thanks for the encouragement, friend. I have to keep reminding myself that simple is often best, even though it feels like it isn't... that I have to do more than I'm doing. And it's good to know that you nixed Advent when you were pregnant with that precious baby girl of yours.